The Best Sex (Survey) Ever!

The Basics

How satisfied are you with your sex life?

30% Very satisfied

33% Satisfied

15% Neutral

17% Dissatisfied

5% Very dissatisfied

* 63 percent have a good sex life!

If you're not satisfied, why?

38% Our busy schedule

62% Sexual inhibitions/dysfunction

50% Stress

38% Kids

15% Marriage troubles

13% Illness (me or spouse)

* Our sexual relationships are heavily influenced by other relationships. Only 20 percent of our readers with children living at home are "very satisfied" with their sex life, compared to 42 percent of those with no children, and 45 percent of those with kids living away from home.

How often do you have sex?

5% Once a day

33% 2 or more times a week

18% Once a week

21% 2-3 times a month

9% Once a month

7% A few times a year

7% Sex? What's that?

How satisfied are you with that frequency?

19% Very satisfied

36% Satisfied

20% Neutral

20% Dissatisfied

5% Very dissatisfied

How satisfied is your spouse with that frequency?

16% Very satisfied

38% Satisfied

17% Neutral

22% Dissatisfied

7% Very dissatisfied

If you could change it?

58% Make it more frequent!

40% Don't change it

2% Less frequent

* A higher frequency of good sex seems to be good for us.

"More frequent sex in the relationship and more frequent orgasm for the female partner strongly increase emotional satisfaction and physical pleasure."—Edward O. Laumann and Robert T. Michael, authors of Sex, Love, and Health in America

Sex Talk

How often do you and your spouse talk together about sex?

48% More than once a month

14% Once a month

25% A few times a year

7% Once a year

6% Never

* When we talk about sex with our spouse, our chances for marital satisfaction improve.

Fifty-eight percent of readers who are "very satisfied" with their marriage talk with their spouse about sex more than once a month.

Seventy-one percent of readers who are "very satisfied" with their sex life talk with their spouse about sex more than once a month.

On the Wild Side

Do you and your spouse have oral sex?

5% Did once

38% Did more than once

40% Do regularly

17% Have not done at all

Do you and your spouse have anal sex?

11% Did once

11% Did more than once

1% Do regularly

77% Have not done at all

Do you and your spouse use pornography?

10% Did once

15% Did more than once

1% Do regularly

74% Have not done at all

Do you and your spouse use sex "toys"?

5% Did once

10% Did more than once

8% Do regularly

77% Have not done at all

* MP doesn't condone these activities but seeks to reflect readers' lives.

"The Bible explicitly calls some practices wrong. But some churches propagate false guilt about practices the Bible is neutral on: masturbation within the couple's lovemaking, oral sex, sex with the lights on. False guilt has no basis in biblical fact, perpetuates shame, and damages the marriage for years."—Shay Roop, author of For Women Only: God's Design for Female Sexuality and Intimacy

Really Personal Info

How satisfied are you in your marriage?

57% Very satisfied

28% Satisfied

9% Neutral

4% Dissatisfied

2% Very dissatisfied

* Eighty-five percent of you like your marriage!

How often do you and your spouse argue about sex?

5% More than once a month

7% Once a month

29% A few times a year

14% Once a year

45% Never

Ever done anything sexually that made you feel guilty or ashamed?

20% Yes

80% No

If yes, how did you handle the guilt?

67% Prayed about it

31% Sought biblical answers

16% Sought counseling

58% Stopped the practice

67% Talked with my spouse

2% Have done nothing about it

Cindy Crosby, an MP regular contributor, is author of By Willoway Brook: Exploring the Landscape of Prayer (Paraclete Press).

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