Family Time with God

Look It Up

Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking fine pearls, and upon finding one pearl of great value, he went and sold all that he had, and bought it (Matthew 13:45-46 NASB)

Get Ready

You'll need one small marble for each member of the family and a single large marble and some white paint or nail polish. Paint each of the marbles white so they look like pearls.

Remember This

Upon finding one pearl of great value, he went and sold all that he had, and bought it (Matt. 13:46).

Talk It Over

WEEK 1: The Pearl
Hand one of the small "pearls" to each family member and place the large pearl in the center of the table. You might want to set it on a dark plate or napkin so it will show up and won't roll off the table. Read the passage again slowly. Encourage each family member to think of the pearl as his or her most precious possession. Ask if they're willing to trade their pearls for the larger pearl. Then ask if anyone would trade a favorite possession?their toys, their car, their house?for the larger pearl. Talk about why your answers might have changed when you started talking about giving up things that are valuable to you.
Now, pass the large pearl around the family. Talk about the meaning of the pearl. What does it mean to give up everything for the kingdom of heaven? Let each person keep his or her pearl during the month. Encourage your family to think about what they'd give up for God each time they see their pearl. End with a prayer asking God to help your family give everything to him.

WEEKS 2-5: Giving Everything
Each week, ask a different member of the family to bring his or her favorite possession to the devotional time. That family member is the "person of the week." Then follow the discussion guidelines below, asking the questions only to the person of the week. If you have more than four people in your family, assign more than one child to a week. And save a week for Mom and Dad!

After you've read the passage, have the person of the week talk about why this possession is her favorite. Ask her why it's hard to think about giving up the things we love. Ask questions like: How did you feel when you first found the "Great Pearl" of God's love? What would you do if God asked you to give up something precious for him? What are some ways you can give God your best? Has God been asking you to give something up for the kingdom?

End your time by praying specifically for the person of the week.

Karen L. Maudlin, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in family therapy. She also teaches in a Montessori-based children's worship program at her church. She and her family live in Illinois.

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AGE 2-5
When it's your preschooler's turn, ask him questions such as: I wonder what it would be like to sell all that you have to get the Great Pearl? What would be the hardest thing for you to give up to get the Great Pearl? What does the Great Pearl mean to you?

AGE 6-9
For a slightly older child, ask: What does the Great Pearl symbolize? Have you ever felt God asking you to give up something you value, your "pearl," for the Great Pearl? What was that like for you? What is your dearest possession? What would it be like to give it up? How do you think the merchant felt when he found the Great Pearl? Encourage her to memorize the verse to remember.

AGE 10-14
Ask questions like: How are you like the merchant? Have you found the Great Pearl in your life? What did you give up for the Great Pearl? Do you sense God calling you to give something up (time, money, habits, a relationship, possessions) for his kingdom? Encourage your child to pray that God would guide him in this area this month. Challenge him to memorize the verse to remember.

FAMILY
Think of something your family can give up together. Cut back on spending and sponsor a child instead. Or give your time by working together at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter one weekend this month. Think of ways you can help each other focus on the Great Pearl.

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